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Women's stubbornness causes and treatment
stubborn
personality
Stubbornness is one of the inherent human characteristics of all of us. It
exists within us in varying degrees and we usually show it when needed.
However, this characteristic takes hold of some people and their permanent
motto in life becomes, “My opinion is right and cannot be wrong, and your
opinion is wrong and cannot be right.”
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A stubborn person is called a person who clings to his opinions and ideas
tightly and finds it difficult to get him to change them or even just discuss
them.
Signs of stubbornness in women
There are three characteristics that clearly indicate stubbornness in
women, and they are:
1- Execute her plans even if they are contrary to the wishes of everyone
around her
2- Showing extreme anger when you try to express an objection to her
opinion or discuss it with her
Marriage is a sacred bond that brings together a man and a woman and aims
to establish a harmonious family that is the nucleus of a strong society.
The strength of the marriage relationship and the key to its success is
understanding and sharing between these two partners. Every decision, big or
small, affects the fate of that family positively or negatively
What happens if there is no understanding and stubbornness between the
spouses replaces it:
I expect that the life of this family will revolve around constant conflict
and the inevitable end will be its dissolution sooner or later
From the leader here:
The norms in our eastern society assign the leadership of the family to the
husband. He is the first official and opinion-maker to whom the task of making
decisions is entrusted
while women's opinion becomes advisory in big matters and often may be
marginal; Therefore, many men find it difficult to accept the idea of their
wives sticking to their opinion on a matter
You can imagine their view and the extent of their annoyance with the
problem of the woman's stubbornness towards the man and her attempt to impose
her opinion and argue with him at the core of his duties.
And if one of them asked his friend’s advice about his stubborn woman, the
answer would be within the limits of “Manage her, man! or divorce her and
rest.” But did anyone think of understanding the reasons for the wife's
stubbornness and looking for a solution instead?!
Reasons for the wife's stubbornness
Stubbornness, like any behavior we do, is motivated by two main things.
Either pay damage and avoid pain or reach a goal or gain.
Accordingly, the reasons for the woman’s stubbornness towards the man,
which fall under these two items, can be clarified in the following points:
Previous
life experience:
Life
experiences and critical situations that we are exposed to - especially during
childhood - contribute to shaping our awareness, and affect our behavior and
the way we express ourselves.
That is
why the first theory to explain the cause of women's stubborn behavior is their
exposure to a sudden change in the environment in which they live during their
childhood
In many
cases, the family is forced to move, whether due to compelling circumstances
such as war, or optional circumstances such as improving income
Usually
this happens without adequate preparation of the children; They find themselves
forced to leave everything behind and forced to adapt again
These
and similar experiences create a strong fear in them of the idea of change in
general and a strong resistance to those who only think of imposing it
self-defense:
Sometimes a woman's stubbornness is nothing but a reaction to the
domineering behavior of her husband who wants to impose his control and control
over all decisions.
At that time, the wife feels that her freedom has been violated and she
desperately wants to maintain her borders, and stubbornness is her only resort
to defend herself.
Feeling of oppression or injustice:
A woman's stubbornness can be one of her means of venting feelings of
injustice or oppression that she lives with her husband or experienced in her
past. Her stubbornness may be her best way to annoy her husband and provoke his
feelings of anger in response to his neglect of her.
Talk about women's stubbornness
To achieve its objectives:
Some wives resort to stubbornness to fulfill their desires and demands, and
adopt a long-term policy until the husband raises the flag of surrender.
Identity crisis:
Some women find it difficult to separate their identities from their ideas,
opinions and beliefs, and they consider the husband's rejection of any of them
as a personal rejection of them.
This pushes her to adhere to her ideas and opinions more, and to defend
them and be very stubborn when only the husband tries to approach her.
The stubbornness of a woman in love
Is stubbornness a sign of love?
Have you ever thought about this question - is stubbornness a sign of love?
maybe
Perhaps your wife's stubbornness is just a desire to get your attention
Perhaps her pride in her opinion is an attempt to imitate some of the women
who argue with you and show them your respect and appreciation.
The rule of the wife's stubbornness to her husband
What is the solution to the wife's stubbornness?
The marriage journey reveals many hidden qualities, behaviors and natures
in both partners.
Some of these qualities are good and some are bad, some of them can be
overcome and some are difficult to adapt to, some of which they try to change
and some of which are difficult to approach.
Perhaps a woman's stubbornness is one of the worst, most difficult and
exhausting traits, but it can be dealt with with some wisdom and skill.
Some tips for dealing with your stubborn wife:
First: anger is not a solution
The anger, argument and fight between you and your stubborn wife is not an
appropriate solution, but rather it will complicate matters. Therefore, we
advise you to choose a suitable time for discussion in which both of you are
calm so that you can reach a solution.
Second: What is the reason?
Think about why your wife is stubborn with you:
Do you insist on imposing your opinion and controlling everything big and
small, so she is forced to use counter stubbornness?
Is her vision blurry and she just needs you to clarify some information for
her to be reassured?
How to weaken a stubborn woman
Third: Show some empathy.
Simple words expressing your sympathy for her and showing your love and
respect for her and your appreciation for the importance of her opinion, and
the extent of your desire to move forward while she is satisfied, may be the
key to the solution that you are ignorant of, my dear.
This enhances her self-confidence and eliminates the doubts that may be
spinning in her head, the most famous of which, as you know, is your desire to
marginalize her.
Fourth: Find common ground:
One of the most important strategies for dealing with stubborn people is to
give them the opportunity to choose or negotiate to reach a common solution
that satisfies all parties.
Fifth: Do not always give up:
Your surrender every time your wife tries to be stubborn with you will root
this behavior inside her more, and it will become her best way to reach her goal.
So prove your position after clarifying your opinion, discussing your
motives, and putting forward the reasons for your decision
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Sixth: Reconsider:
The woman's stubbornness does not exclude the possibility that her opinion
may be the right one. So do not reject her opinion for the sake of rejection
and to break stubbornness.
And try to stand up and listen to her point of view well, as you may be
wrong this time
finally;
Remember, my friend, that we are human beings and that our qualities - good
or bad - are instilled in us from childhood. And changing it takes a lot of
effort and work
Perhaps the solution to the wife's stubbornness is a lot of patience and
understanding on your part to change her or even accept her as she is.
With my best
wishes