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How do I know that my husband is a narcissist?
The narcissistic spouse
The personality of the
narcissistic man is more evident after marriage, although
there are some signs during the engagement period;
The intensity increases after marriage and parenthood.
This is
due to the many responsibilities and sacrifices required of him as a husband
and father, which contradicts his selfish tendencies and self-love.
These
signs will appear clearly to you.
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The same
traits that attracted you to your husband's personality may be the same
narcissistic traits
that you
suffer after marriage,
like:
Excessive self-confidence, assertiveness, and
fame
Here are
some signs of a narcissistic spouse:
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Your feeling
of isolation after marriage:
It is
normal, with the concerns of life and responsibility after marriage, that your
social interactions and relationships with friends decrease.
But in
the case of marrying a narcissist, he works systematically to cut you off from
all your friends, reduce your acquaintances and also isolate you from your
family.
Perhaps
this behavior stems from his excessive jealousy of anything that attracts your
attention or interest, because he wants to be the center of the universe for
you, so you have no right to pay attention to anything else in your life.
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Always
trying to make you feel jealous:
The narcissistic husband deliberately flirts
with other women in your presence or compliments them, in order to arouse
feelings of jealousy in you.
This
enhances his sense of control and that he is the focus of everyone's attention
and the focus of your attention.
He
criticizes all of your actions negatively.
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He always expects
you to fulfill his desires
These
narcissistic men feed on taking, not giving, expecting their wives to
constantly obey and submit. Rather, they demand that the wife expect what her
husband wants and fulfill it without asking, and without any reward.
Rather,
it may come to punish you - whether physically, psychologically, or financially
- in the event that you refuse to fulfill any request of him, even if you have
the full right to refuse, with the constant threat of separation from you if
this happens again.
Therefore,
we can summarize the characteristics of a narcissistic person in that he is
characterized by selfishness, self-love, and love to attract attention, while
underestimating his life partner and not empathizing with her.
Does the
narcissistic spouse change?
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Does a
narcissistic husband love his wife?
The
narcissistic husband tries to keep the image of his marriage visible to others
in a successful and happy way, and we find that they exaggerate in putting
intimate pictures of themselves with their wives on social media.
This is
because the narcissist cares a lot about society's view of him as a successful
and popular person, and their wives are afraid to tell the truth for fear
from his
reaction.
But in
fact, the narcissistic husband treats his wife in a harsh manner and a great
deal of abuse, while deliberately insulting and belittling her.
If you
appreciate it, do not be deceived by these false images, as they are only part
of his narcissistic pride.
The
wives of these narcissistic men suffer from the stinginess of their feelings
and the lack of words expressing love, gentle touches, expressions of encouragement,
and all manifestations of attention, even in difficult situations or illness.
Which is
hard to believe from those around them, they only see the cute and attractive
side of that narcissistic person,
How can
they believe that he is a cruel person and exerts such pressure on his wife!
Instead
of asking whether the narcissistic husband loves his wife, we should ask
whether the narcissistic husband values, supports, and supports his wife.
Morally
and appreciating her for looking really happy?
Traits
of a narcissistic man in bed
The
narcissistic spouse and intimacy
The
narcissistic man's personality affects his dealings with his wife, especially
the intimate relationship.
Since he
is a selfish person, this nature is reflected in his intimate relationship with
his wife. He prefers his comfort and simplicity and does not give any attention
to the happiness of his partner and her needs in the intimate relationship.
Rather, it may come to the point of exploiting his wife physically and emotionally
in order to satisfy his desires.
Psychologists
have classified a type of narcissistic personality disorder known as sexual
narcissism. In which the husband delusions that he possesses a miraculous
sexual ability, and he has excessive ingenuity in the intimate relationship.
They
focus on the body and performance, ignoring the emotions, as all they want is
to prove sexual ability only, even if the truth is otherwise, but also to force
his wife to admit it to satisfy his ego.
The
wives of narcissistic men complain that their husbands ignore them after the
relationship, which makes them feel that they are just a means of pleasure.
They
have no value for their husbands except for enjoying themselves, not sharing
life.
How do
you conquer a narcissistic man?
The
narcissistic spouse and divorce
Divorce
is a tough situation for both spouses most of the time, so the couple remembers
the happy moments they had,
and how
each fell in love with the other; This shows sadness on their faces, and they may
become depressed after the divorce.
But this
does not apply in the case of a narcissistic husband and divorce. The
narcissistic person fights his emotions, unbridled them, and overcomes
Pride is
above human feelings, so he does not show any anger, sadness, or remorse over
the company.
It is
because he is afraid of appearing weak; The most important thing for a
narcissist is his social appearance and society's view of him.
Which
increases the grief of their wives after the divorce, so the woman feels the
loss of years of her life with that cruel man who was humiliated
It was
ten years later, and his life continued without any regrets.
Disciplining
a narcissistic spouse
The
narcissistic husband and betrayal
The
narcissistic husband justifies all actions, even infidelity; Rather, he accuses
his wife of being the cause and blames her.
He does
not feel any shame or blame for himself, and blames his wife for his
negligence, or he feels that these multiple relationships are his right and
there is no blame on him.
And many
studies have proven the prevalence of marital infidelity among narcissistic
couples, perhaps because sex addiction is part of the
Narcissistic
personality disorder, or because they believe that their sexual powers are
supernatural and that one wife is not enough for them.
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narcissistic husband in Islam
The best way
to deal with a narcissistic husband
Dear, we offer you
some tips to reach the best way to deal with a narcissistic husband:
Understand his
personality well, and accept his shortcomings that we mentioned earlier, so
that you do not become disappointed, because he often does not change the
person.
The narcissist is in
his nature and the way he treats you easily.
Understand the nature
of his illness, and treat him with love and kindness. He suffers from a lack of
security and confidence. Perhaps this will increase his reassurance at the idea
of your presence by his side. Which will reduce his selfishness somewhat and
improve the relationship between you.
Choose the right time
to blame him for not caring about you, and talk to him frankly and in a calm
voice about your need
For attention and
appreciation, perhaps his heart will soften and he will understand married life
well and the importance of caring for you.
stop criticizing him; As he is by nature sensitive to criticism and accepts it with annoyance and an unwanted reaction.
try to
encourage him without criticism or blame; Which may help him improve and earn
you his love.
Don't be
discouraged if his reactions shock you and it only gets worse; Some narcissists
need a doctor
Myself
is a specialist to improve their condition, so do not feel like a failure or
failure as a wife, for you have done all your efforts to help him.
Seek
help from a specialist psychiatrist or family relations counselor if necessary,
as it may cause a lot of letdown
And
frustration in your depression and anxiety.
Finally,
be patient, as the journey of marital life is long and its good fruits really
deserve patience and diligence.
How does a
narcissistic husband deal with his wife?
The
wives of these narcissistic men are in a really difficult situation. If she
wants to continue the relationship with him,
She must
ignore a lot of his bad behavior and hard-to-be-behaved nature.
Which
may make the narcissistic husband increase in that character and put more and
more pressure on his poor wife.
And if
she chooses to separate from the narcissistic husband, she will need severe
psychological support and treatment to overcome the wounds and feelings that
her marriage to such a character shattered.
Therefore,
it is more appropriate for girls, during the period of engagement, to pay
attention to the nature of their fiancé and to examine her well before committing
to marrying him.
· With my wishes of
happiness